I remember sitting in the hospital room with my parents almost 5 years ago and hearing the words that no one wants to hear, “It’s Cancer.” In that moment life changed in more ways than I ever could have imagined.
The next 3 years were filled with surgeries, hospital visits, chemo, radiation, family time, celebrations and heartaches, and in the end the loss of my first hero.
Now it has been 2 years since the clock struck midnight on July 10, 2017 and I sang happy birthday to my papa for the last time. In this moment surrounded my my mom, sister, aunts, and some cousins, we got to celebrate my dad reaching another year on this earth.
After a restless night and my little family together in one room, I would wake up just a few short hours later, to find my dad had found his way to his new home and know that he was no longer suffering here on earth.
It has been a long 2 years without my dad and one that has not always been easy.
While I miss bird watching, sneaking cheese its to the dogs, hardware store visits, and finding the next best cheese and beer together, each of those activities now brings back such sweet memories of the time we had together and I can’t help but be thankful for the 27 years I was blessed to spend with my Dad.
Happy Earthly & Heavenly Birthday, Papa! You are loved and missed immensely.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross & John Kessler
The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again, but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.